Community Rules apply to all content you upload or otherwise submit to this site. Carla R. Dearing died on Dec. 7, 2014, at the age of 78, after a long, heart-breaking period of physical and mental decline inflicted on her by dementia. If youre interested in a lighter eulogy, consider sharing a funny story. He was also a generous soul, always ready to lend a helping hand. This tradition continued all the way from when I was around 6 to my very last year of high school. She was always [description] and she never [description]. Always remember that you too can always calm your mind and heart to allow your moms strength and guidance to pick you up when youre in doubt or facing uncertainty. Mom was always willing to go, whether it was dancing, fishing, going to the lake and tubing behind the boat, and paddle boarding at 80, and they really enjoyed garage sales. In 2014, she was a research participant in one of my school projects. [Grandfather's Name] was also a talented artist and woodworker. I was basically raised by my mom and sister. I know that she is now at peace, and I take comfort in knowing that she will always be with me in spirit. Surviving my teenage years is a testament to the patience and love my mother had for her family. We hosted a memorial service at Western Hills Church of Christ in Austin, Texas. Youre acknowledging the audience and thanking them for sharing this time with you and yours. Mom was always involved in hobbies that helped others; she even met my dad through her volunteering activities. ", even if it was said in anger or frustration. Or middle of the night runs to the emergency room when one of my sisters or myself had an emergency and mom needed support. On my 22nd birthday, Dad found I had a liver tumor. But dementia doesn't care. Hello everyone. My mom and I spent 15 minutes trying to catch that little bird to get him back outside. My mother's ethic of service and selflessness was something I spoke of in her eulogy. Man in his 50s is arrested for GBH after dementia sufferer, 61, suffered a fractured eye socket when she was punched in a lay-by despite wearing a badge warning of her illness You dont meet someone like that every day. ewKI7e],c{~\I 1>eFM,[O45=fy&.Khz| 8|z2{IaG96|c8g@5-}h#?KzmJQe\!qWv4Xb)4eX:(tfc?N{0Pn5bqb?srm\%2T(G%,H]3/jd?50^$$\_/d'oj2G w@cL*j(OKSP5#nivR@8llOL8R(H`P\_ p= endobj For years she took cancer-causing immunosuppressant drugs to suppress her immune system so her body would not reject my marrow. Her elder sister and only surviving sibling Helen may be able to recall my grandmothers entire lifetime as memories. Who can forget the little brick office building, with cartoon characters on the inside walls? Hello, I'm (insert father's name) (insert child, son or daughter). She came back out with 10 babies clinging to her back and headed off into the woods. We laid her to rest in a beautiful and private service. Leif's description of each memory that he cherished with his mom is a perfect way for the reader to gain an understanding of the type of woman Barbara was and the effect she had on those around her. My mom passed away two months ago, after a nearly 4 year battle with Lewy Body Dementia. Read more about Lauren. But I call it, My Mothers Son., I knew it was coming, every time I would visit Mom at workusually to ask for money for the movies or to pick up the car to meet friends or for some other equally important reasonnever just to say hi, or ask about her day, or tell her how much I loved her. After grad school with his advanced degree in Mathematics, he met my Mom on their first day of work at US Navy, David Taylor Model Basin as they were both trying to find the math lab! And he even directed and acted in some community theater plays. Without her constant and unrelenting support, I wouldn't have made it through the last 40 years of my life. For me, I will always remember my grandmother as the woman that took me to the store to get hamburger meat, go home and cook spaghetti and Ragu, spread towels on the floor in front of the TV, and watch movies while we ate on those towels. <>/Metadata 65 0 R/ViewerPreferences 66 0 R>> I know she loved every day she got to spend on this earth and I know she felt loved for each and every day. I was convinced that my time would come by the time I was 20 (how naive!). Losing our mother in 2021 and her dogs Osa and Kiki back-to-back was just too much to handle. Death Is Nothing At All Instructions We Remember Him (We Remember Her) Parable On Immortality Let Me Go Remember Our memories build a special bridge There is no night without a dawning You've just walked on ahead of me If I should die before the rest of you When I am dead, my dearest, At every turning of my life This special little poem for Marie works as a short eulogy example for any friend or loved one who had Dementia. We will love you forever Mom. One such incident occurred with a little Tufted Titmouse, aptly named Tufty. One of my most cherished memories with [Name] was the time we [description]. And I just took him to the movie theater at Thanksgiving to see the new Dune movie, which he loved. My [mom/dad/relation] was an unforgettable and truly remarkable human being. I've been a professional journalist for more than a decade, but without a doubt, my mother's eulogy was the hardest thing I've ever had to write. And several people said he was a Renaissance Man. Two years ago this week, I stood in the pulpit at St. Joseph Catholic Church in Battle Creek, Mich., and delivered those words. She stated, quote, Its where problems dont exist. I owe my father everything and I credit my success in life to the way he raised me, each and every day. That wasn't my intent. Hello all. After we met, I [description of life after meeting person] and [he/she] went on to [description of what they did]. But people dont quite know how to mourn someone whos still technically alive. Rest in peace, Dad. When I finally got my pony, my mother was there to meet her, happy as a clam to see me with Daenerys and to share the moment. Very much so. He made his family immensely proud of him every single day he lived. Thats a lot of what Buddhist practice is, staying in the present. My sister seemed to have found peace in those moments of presence on the dance floor. At the same time, I know [Name] would hate it if they saw me up here crying, talking only about their loss and ignoring all the wonderful things [he/she] did with their precious time here on Earth. I miss you so much. I will continue to pattern my life after yours, and in times when I need help or a little advice, I will think back to all the good, long talks we had. We will honor your memory by [way youre going to honor memory]. Her church group referred to her as "The Old Commander" because she was so stringent in getting them to submit their projects on time. When I graduated, she drove me across the country. Please spread joy in all the ways you can. [He/she] was beyond thoughtful -- [he/she] was one of the kindest and most compassionate people I've ever met and will ever meet. And he was still the volunteer Treasurer for the Four Corners neighborhood association, which he had been doing for many years. This column is her legacy -- a way that I can serve others, as surely as she would find a way to serve them if she were still with us today. My grandmother was an amazing woman. [She/He] was always so kind and helpful, and I will never forget all of the times [she/he] went out of [him/her] way to help me. I will make you proud. He loved having us all there. In any case, know that any time spent building up the lives of others is time spent remembering and honoring the life of [Name] -- and for that, we are forever grateful. It fell upon me to write my mother's obituary. Please make sure you've written a comment before it can be published. He loved the food. People gravitated towards them. She was a devoted mother, a compassionate humanitarian, and an inspiration to all who knew her. My life's greatest years were spent with [Name], the love of my life. He stood up for what he believed in. When he set it up on the counter, he would say, Is there any charge for this? Every night, he would say, I need my totty for the body. And he would have his little glass of ginger ale and his little shot glass. While not all of these memories are ""positive"", they are the ones that have stuck with me the most. Everyones life was brighter having known my sister, especially mine. If you purchase a product or register for an account through one of the links on our site, we may receive compensation. He will be remembered for all that he has accomplished and the many lives that he touched. The truth is that of all the people that have been in my life, my grandma is the one that has been the most present and participatory. A man of few words, and even fewer faults -- he was the stoic figure in my life, the foundation that stayed true no matter what was thrown at him, and the reason I became the woman I am today. Then we held a graveside service later that day at Sealy Cemetery in Sealy, Texas. However, at some station, our parents would step down from the train, leaving us on life's journey alone. I don't doubt I'll be sharing small stories from his life for the rest of my own, but I do want to make sure I make one thing extremely clear. Think of anecdotes, life events, or characteristics you think should be mentioned. When [Grandfather's Name] returned home from the war, he began a new chapter in his life, one filled with family, friends, and all the things he loved. Seed and plants kept coming and coming to the house. In closing today, I would like to ask you to say The Lords Prayer with me. It was totally inappropriate. Shannon viewed dance as therapy. These can include alarms that remind patients to take medication, pictures, notes, message boards, or clocks with information to help reduce confusion and disorientation. He served on submarines in World War II, becoming a chief pharmacist mate; and at the time, was the youngest Chief Petty Officer in the Navy. My friends have all insisted I was blessed with her as my mom, and I know this to be true. These last emotions may surprise you, but people commonly feel love . My family is still dealing with raw heartache from his death and now we are all feeling the pain from hers as well. Dad, Liverpool beat Derby County two-one away from home in their Boxing Day match. If I was working in the garden, he'd want to help. I endeavor, with all my heart, to follow in [his/her] footsteps for the rest of my life. I love you. She told me not to embarass her in this eulogy, so I'll restrain myself from doing that by going over the top. I haven't been involved in other aspects of it, but someone on TP encouraged me to speak at least, and I realised I did want to. It's a way to remind myself why I write on this topic. For those who don't know me, [Name] was my childhood best friend. Normally I read each post before I post but I thought it was best to go with my gut on this one. He learned at an early age to work hard and to take care of others. We just sat there and laughed together anyway, albeit for entirely different reasons. And then he continued to be present and involved in my life as a grandfather to Brandon, especially since we lived somewhat close by. Yet his reward was not an easy retirement, peace, rest, the consolations of a hard life well-lived. When we graduated from college (we both attended [name of college]), she was right behind me on the stage, clasping her degree in [subject] while I held mine in [subject] -- far from our dreams as children. Thank you for everything, Grandma. He took a turn for the worse last Monday, after falling the previous Friday, and was struggling to breath and swallow and in a state of delirium and agitation for several days. But I thank God for this extra time. Losing my dad has taught me two things: [list lessons]. I have great memories of him helping us as kids with homework, which he enthusiastically did, and especially of course with math. Advertisement. He set such a great example for me of what a father and what a spouse should be. Nope, we had birds and squirrels lined up on every single railing eating the seeds and peanuts placed out there by mom. This is the first time I've seen the majority of my company in one room that wasn't our building -- and it's for the funeral of our very special friend and colleague -- [Name]. I will love, and be loved, and the world will be a richer, better place for my having been here. She was surrounded with family and love in her last days and to me that is the most important thing. That's rare. This little critter loved noodles with BBQ sauce a specialty my mother whipped up for for her culinary delight. But I know now. She also found peace through painting, which she spent a lot time doing the last five years. You did a wonderful job. She returned the favor in kind. As his Alzheimers disease progressed, he continued to be happy. When you ask Americans over the age of 60 what health threat they fear the most, overwhelmingly they say Alzheimer's. That fear is not misplaced. Goodbye Mom. He runs theAlzheimer's Prevention Clinic at the New York-Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center in Manhattan. % "Walter", George's grumpy and humorous alter-ego, was never afraid to . My father was not an easy man. He did it with kindness and cheerfulness. When I was younger, [Name] used to take me to [area]. [She/He] was the best at [baking/cooking/fixing things/trips/parties/crafts/giving advice/etc]. Roy has bonds with people far beyond his family's reach. I vividly remember my last good visit with you, about a month before you died, when (my brother) Russell and I came to see you the day before Mothers Day. I will cherish all the memories we have together from your first steps, to your first day of school, to your high school graduation. (Orting, WA) Jean M. Wilkenson. Throughout all of his endeavors, [Name] was guided by his dedication to his family. [Name] was a rare individual -- someone that, in today's day and age, is becoming increasingly more rare. To Chicago. Shannon had such a big life and touched so many people, its hard to know where to begin. While most knew my dad as a [descriptor] person, those closest to him knew him for his [kindness, bravery, love, caring, tenderness, softness, etc]. They met at the U.S.O. I will be selfless and unfailingly loyal. 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